“IT IS IN THE SHELTER OF EACH OTHER THAT THE PEOPLE LIVE”
BOOKS
“EDUCATION IS A PROCESS THAT GOES ON ‘TIL DEATH. THE MOMENT YOU SEE SOMEONE WHO KNOWS SHE HAS FOUND THE ONE TRUE WAY, AND CAN CALL ALL OTHERS FALSE, THEN YOU KNOW YOU’RE IN THE COMPANY OF AN IGNORAMUS. ”
codependency & boundaries
Codependent No More. Melody Beattie
Facing Codependency. Pia Melody
Set Boundaries, Find Peace. Nedra Glover Tawwab
Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life. Henry Cloud & John Townsend.
body & mind
Dopamine Nation. Anna Lembke, MD
The Body Keeps the Score. Bessel van der Kolk
When the Body Says No. Gabor Mate
Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve. Stanley Rosenberg
The Wisdom of Your Body. Hillary McBride
Anchored. Deb Dana
Mind Magic. James Doty
This Is Your Mind On Plants. Michael Pollan
Good Energy. Casey Means
“OWNING OUR STORY CAN BE HARD BUT NOT NEARLY AS DIFFICULT AS SPENDING OUR LIVES RUNNING FROM IT. EMBRACING OUR VULNERABILITIES IS RISKY BUT NOT NEARLY AS DANGEROUS AS GIVING UP ON LOVE AND BELONGING AND JOY -
THE EXPERIENCES THAT MAKE US THE MOST VULNERABLE. ONLY WHEN WE ARE BRAVE ENOUGH TO EXPLORE THE DARKNESS WILL WE DISCOVER THE INFINITE POWER OF OUR LIGHT.”
gender identity, sexual identity, sexual wellness
The Stonewall Reader. NY Public Library
Come as You Are. Emily Nagoski
So, Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. Ian Kerner
Boys and Sex. Peggy Orenstein
Girls and Sex. Peggy Orenstein
She Comes First. The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. Ian Kerner
emotional wellbeing
Burnout. Amelia & Emily Nagoski
Emotional Agility. Susan David
The Dance of Anger. Harriet Lerner
Fierce Self Compassion. Kristen Neff
Mindsight. Dan Siegel
ALL of Brene Brown
Rethinking Narcissism. Craig Malkin
The Anatomy of Anxiety. Ellen Vora
No Bad Parts. Richard Schwartz
The Awakened Brain. Lisa Miller
“PEACE WILL COME WHEN WE GET INTO THE RIVER OF LIFE TOGETHER, WHEN WE ACCEPT THAT WE ARE ALL BOUND TO EACH OTHER, WHEN WE SHARE THE BURDENS - AND THE BEAUTY - OF CARE, FOR A MORE BALANCED FUTURE.”
patriarchy & power
Entitled. Kate Manne
Hood Feminism. Mikki Kendall
All The Rage. Darcy Lockman
The Body Is Not an Apology. Sonya Renee Taylor
gender & society
The 7 Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. Elise Loehnen
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression. Terrence Real
Sister Outsider. Audre Lord
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love. Bell Hooks
Delusions of Gender. Cordelia Fine
Girlhood. Melissa Febos
“THE GRAND ILLUSION OF COMMITTED LOVE IS THAT WE THINK OUR PARTNERS ARE OURS. IN TRUTH, THEIR SEPARATENESS IS UNASSAILABLE, AND THEIR MYSTERY IS FOREVER UNGRASPABLE. AS SOON AS WE CAN BEGIN TO ACKNOWLEDGE THIS, SUSTAINED DESIRE BECOMES A REAL POSSIBILITY.”
relationships
Hold Me Tight. Sue Johnson
Attached. Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
We Do. Stan Tatkin
Polysecure. Jessica Fern
Mating in Captivity. Esther Perel
Conscious Uncoupling. Katherine Woodward Thomas
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Esther Perel
Ask A Queer Chick. Lindsay King-Miller
The All or Nothing Marriage. Eli J Finkel
This is How Your Marriage Ends. Matthew Fray
Us. Terrence Real
Getting the Love You Want. Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt
Sovereign Love. Dené Logan
You Could Make This Place Beautiful. Maggie Smith
parenting
The Awakened Family. Shefali Tsabary
The Conscious Parent. Shefali Tsabary
The Whole Brain Child. Dan Siegel
No Drama Discipline. Dan Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting. Brene Brown
Mom & Me & Mom. Maya Angelou
Nurture Shock. Po Bronson & Ashley Merryman
Odd Girl Out. Rachel Simmons
Good Inside. Becky Kennedy
Like A Mother: A Feminist Journey Through The Science and Culture of Pregnancy. Angela Barbes
Grit. Angela Duckworth
The Five Principles of Parenting by Aliza Pressman
“THE PEOPLE WE LOVE AND THOSE WHO RAISED US LIVE INSIDE US; WE EXPERIENCED THEIR EMOTIONAL PAIN, WE DREAM THEIR MEMORIES, WE KNOW WHAT WAS NOT EXPLICITLY CONVEYED TO US, AND THESE THINGS SHAPE OUR LIVES IN WAYS THAT WE DON’T ALWAYS UNDERSTAND.”
trauma
Emotional Inheritance. Galit Atlas
What Happened To You? Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey
The Body Keeps the Score. Bessel van der Kolk
The Deepest Well. Nadine Burke Harris
It Didn’t Start With You. Mark Wolynn
The Myth of Normal. Gabor Mate
What My Bones Know. Stephanie Foo
race & privilege
Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents. Isabel Wilkerson
My Grandmother’s Hands. Resmaa Menakem
Me & White Supremacy. Layla Saad
How To Be An Antiracist. Ibram X. Kendi
White Fragility. Robin Diangelo
Double Take. Kevin Connolly
Unbound. Tarana Burke
The Bluest Eye. Toni Morrison
I’m Still Here. Austin Channing Brown
“YOUR SOLITUDE WILL BE A SUPPORT AND A HOME FOR YOU, EVEN IN THE MIDST OF VERY UNFAMILIAR CIRCUMSTANCES, AND FROM IT YOU WILL FIND ALL YOUR PATHS.”
soul & spirit
The Power of Now. Eckhart Tolle
Signs. Laura Lynn Jackson
Man’s Search for Meaning. Victor Frankl
When Things Fall Apart. Pema Chodron
The Four Agreements. Don Miguel Ruiz
Letters to a Young Poet. Rainer Maria Rilke
How We Became Human. Joy Harjo
Journey of Souls. Michael Newton
Many Lives Many Masters. Brian Weiss
Use Your Planets Wisely. Jennifer Freed
The Untethered Soul. Michael Singer
death & grief
Being Mortal. Atul Gawande
The Bright Hour. Nina Riggs
A Beginner’s Guide to the End. BJ Miller
On Death and Dying. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
On Grief and Grieving. Elisabeth Kubler Ross & David Kessler
When Breath Becomes Air. Paul Kalanithi
From Here to Eternity. Caitlin Doughty
Grief is Love. Marisa Lee
“HOW WONDERFUL TO BE WHO I AM,
MADE OUT OF EARTH AND WATER,
MY OWN THOUGHTS, MY OWN FINGERPRINTS -
ALL THAT GLORIOUS, TEMPORARY STUFF.”
bury with me books
Women Who Run With The Wolves. Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Anam Cara. John O'Donohue
Mary Magdalene Revealed: The First Apostle, Her Feminist Gospel & the Christianity We Haven't Tried Yet. Meggan Watterson
Devotions. Mary Oliver
The Prophet. Kahlil Gibran
depth
Dream Guidance. Machiel Klerk
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up. James Hollis
Meeting the Shadow. Connie Zweig
Pathways to Bliss: Mythology and Personal Transformation. Joseph Campbell
On The Way To The Wedding. Linda Schierse Leanoard